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    by Donna Kaye

    Greeting card with designer artwork and “sassy” sentiment! 16 selections.

    Did I even know . . . or did I just believe love conquerors all?  (Those darn feelings again.)  Honestly, as I reflect on my engagement, I thought no further than those delicious feelings.  Those words of endearment, he adored me.  Was it my youth?  Maybe in part, but obviously not exclusively, as women of all ages make the same mistake every day – and far too often over and over.

    I expected this euphoric feeling was forever . . . our marriage compass.  “In love” meant a lifetime of good feelings, adoration, niceties, shared plans & goals, and a family to adore.  So simple!  Oh sure, I knew we would have our disagreements – lover’s spats – but they would quickly be overcome and within hours or at least a couple of days replaced by “hugs and kisses,” and promises of sorry and total forgiveness, as always.  Forgiveness, really?  Possibly, but unfortunately more likely acceptance not fully dealt with, but instead unknowingly shelved. . . left to grow into those hurts and resentments that fester to indifference and certain destruction.  A “get even” attitude. DIVORCE and heartbreak.

    What do I need from a husband?   What do YOU need from a husband?

    "“Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get – only with what you are expecting to give –
    which is everything." "
    - Katherine Hepburn
  • 18

    by Donna Kaye
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    Wusband Linen Towels Cutout

    Popular linen towels gloat a “sassy” Wus’band message while adding a splash of color –

    Memory serves me well – for me, it was all about that magical feeling of being “in love.”  It’s said; “love is blind” . . . and none is so blind as she who will not see.  Our inability or refusal to see clearly combined with our absolute certainty that he’s Mr. Right can lead to very poor decisions.  Good people becoming wrong couples.

    Nothing is so intoxicating as being in love – a euphoric giddiness.  Yet all too soon we learn lasting love is much more than feelings.  Marital success requires we know what we need from our man and what we can give to him . . . it is a partnership.

    My generation was one of romance.  A time when men flattered us with words, sincerely spoken of course.  He sent bouquets of flowers or arrived for our date with a lovely corsage in hand.  We dare not go to the football game without a big white mum adorned in our school colors.  He opened doors and sent “love notes” and greeting cards . . . he delighted in surprising you with precious sentimental gifts.  You felt special!  Incidentally, if you’ve never been romanced – indulge yourself.

    Do the majority of us look beyond our feelings when choosing our husband, our life mate?  Do we excuse or even ignore the all so evident “red flags,” warning us this might not be all that it “feels” . . . caution, proceed with clear head.

    Gals, we have been known to repeat our mistakes.  Did we learn nothing?  Or the next time perhaps you simply chose the extreme opposite of your first hubby thinking this would be a sure fix.  Oh don’t misunderstand, I still believe those delicious feelings are essential, and for me it is a necessary part of a relationship, memories that in part make “us” unique and special as a couple . . . memories that will become our history.

    Life is good and time so precious let us choose that man who is worthy of our love, just as we are, and give him our best.  Don’t stop dancing, just choose more wisely.  Don’t be so afraid you cheat yourself out of one of God’s best gifts to us . . . love and marriage.  To love and be loved —-in love,  forever!

    ""Once you wake up and smell the coffee, it's hard to go back to sleep.""
    - Fran Drescher
  • 18

    by Donna Kaye

    Freedom - Outside View

    Greeting card with designer artwork and “sassy” sentiment! 16 selections.

    I wonder . . . do we know when things began to fall apart? Was it slowly over time or was it from the beginning? I’ve come to believe it began with “the choice.” Who is this special man that I chose, believing he would bring me happiness forever. I recall so well my Mother’s wise advice as I planned my wedding, she suggested that I might wish to wait longer . . . not that she didn’t like my husband-to-be, she did. Later I learned she feared we might grow apart – out-grow each other, and if not, then it would be right, and we would be better equipped for the challenges of marriage. But, I was “in love” and refused to hear. She was right, of course. (Aren’t mothers always right?) And happiness? No one else is responsible to make us happy, that belongs solely to us. I don’t mean to say a wrong choice can’t be successful, but it surely sets us up for a struggle that few survive.

    Divorce is difficult – even when we realize it is inevitable, perhaps even desired. Precious time has been lost . . . “time,” the one thing none of us can recover. So waste no more, let go of the pain, the bitterness & anger . . . forgive the both of you and move on to live again . . . life anew!

    "Better by far that you should forget and smile – than you remember & be sad."
    - Christina G. Rossetti
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    by Donna Kaye
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    Wine-Bottle-ApronYour divorce is signed, sealed & delivered … NOW WHAT? The tears are dried (well most of them, anyway), and you’ve survived! Let’s celebrate — life after divorce, you deserve it. Shout your message “I’m back” …

    Send it, Carry it or Wear it. It’s the “in” thing to do.

    No celebration is complete without a delicious bottle of champagne or wine for toasting. Dressed in Wus’band’s “wine bottle apron & hat” it is guaranteed to be proper and a crowd pleaser.

    Like Wus’band, the following article encourages you to look beyond the disappointment and hurt of a broken marriage and embrace “your new beginning” – one worth celebrating. A must read – then order your cake!

    New York – Divorce, it seems, has turned into a party – special cakes and all. Event planners, bakers, lawyers and academics note the rise of divorce parties over the last several years. Duff Goldman, chef and owner of Charm City Cakes in Baltimore and Charm City Cakes West in Los Angeles, says he has been creating divorce cakes for a decade, with one or so orders a month nowadays. “We’re thrilled to put a positive spin on what can be a difficult and stressful time for people,” says Goldman, whose custom cakes were featured on the Food Network reality show Ace of Cake from 2006 – 2011. (More…)

    "And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance.
    I hope you dance . . ."
    - Lee Ann Womack